Planning a Bachelorette Party 101
By: Trisha Patel
So your close friend/relative is getting married and you are chosen to throw her a bachelorette party. How should you start? Where do you start? Here is a step-by-step guide to throwing a party that the bride-to-be will remember forever!
Step 1: Bride’s Vision
Here are some questions to ask the bride:
Vibe? - Rager, tropical, relaxing, downtown/city, adventure, etc.
Location? - If she doesn’t care, give her a list of options and have her eliminate the ones she does not care for.
What does she absolutely want and not want?
Step 2: Method of Communication
You will want to have two group chats: one with the bride and one without (for surprises). The “liking” functionality will be extremely beneficial when coordinating the party. If everyone has an iPhone, iMessages works great. If not, see if it would be possible for everyone to download “GroupMe” or another app with similar functionality.
The Bachelorette Party and Bridal Shower are two pieces of the wedding planning process that the bride should not have to stress about. Try to minimize her workload and engage other bridesmaids whenever help is needed.
Step 3: Location and Date
After you have talked to the bride about her vision, it is time to finalize a time and place. Google Forms and SurveyMonkey are great ways to review availability. Ask the following questions:
Address - If you’ll be sending out formal invites
Select all dates that work for you - Have 2-4 multiple choice options and make it so that they are able to select more than one
Once complete, send out the URL in a group chat to the guests. Based on the date, begin narrowing the list of locations down. Let the guests know where/when the party will be so they can begin thinking about travel accommodations and adjusting their schedules if needed.
Step 4: Lodging
Once you have a final headcount, it is time to start planning where to stay. Hotel, Airbnb and VRBO are all great options. Condos and houses are nice so everyone can stay in one central location. Be sure to consider the location of your stay in regards to the activities you have in mind and if applicable, travel time to/from the airport.
Step 5: Theme and Decor
What is the vibe you are looking to accomplish? Below are some ideas to help you get started. Pinterest is also a great source for ideas.
Majestic - Royal colors
Rustic - Woodsy, adventurous
Classic Bach - Pink, sequins, black, metallic
Classy - Champagne, black, white, gold
Spa Theme - Light colors
Boho - Greens, beachy
When it comes to the theme, it is a good idea to mind the following:
Bride’s room decor
Step 6: Itinerary and Activities
When coordinating a party, it is best to have an itinerary. Start by outlining everything you know about the weekend. Here is an example:
5:00 pm - Arrival
6:30 pm - Toast - Bride’s room
7:00 pm - Reservation at XYZ for dinner
9:00 pm - Bar hopping (casual attire)
11:00 am - Meet in the Bride’s room
11:30 am - Brunch (casual attire)
12:00 pm - Activity (boat, pedal tour, spa, wine tasting, etc.)
5:00 pm - Go back to the hotel and get ready
8:00 pm - Meet in Bride’s room for games and have food delivered
10:00 pm - Club/bottle service at XYZ (bridal party: cocktail attire; bride: white; guests: black)
12:00 pm - Departure
This will help you begin thinking through what you will need to consider for the activities (transportation, reservations, etc.). Continue to build this plan out as you have more details. It will be beneficial for guests to know the plan to such detail at least 1 month in advance (to gather outfits, etc.).
Remember, less is more. Bachelorette parties can be tiring. Try to plan a few things that you can really build out. The bride will appreciate having relaxation and/or recovery time amidst all the activity.
Step 7: Splitting costs
There are many different ways you can go about splitting costs during the bachelorette party. Here are a few options:
Everyone pays for themselves (Venmo as needed)
Everyone contributes a certain amount and one person pays for the bills
Download Splitwise - it keeps a running total over time, so you can pay each other back in one overall payment instead of a bunch of small ones.
Step 8: Host packing list
Sash/veil for the Bride
First aid/ hangover kit: Advil, Pedialyte, etc.
Water, drinks, and chaser
Planning a bachelorette party can become stressful and time-consuming but if you take it one step at a time and recruit help when needed, it is all worth it in the end!